It was Thanksgiving 2014 and I was rushing and stressed, getting ready to run out for some last minute items before our guests arrived. I ran into the bedroom to get ready and was about to bolt out the door when I realized something wasn’t right. I walked over to the bed where my husband, Simon was sitting upright in bed and realized at that moment he had passed away in his sleep.
It's not what happens to us, it's how we react to it that matters.
Now that I've had a chance to breathe from the holidays, I wanted to share my decade in review. I decided to put this in writing as a reminder to myself that I went through a sh!t storm but came out the other side. If you're currently feeling like the universe hates you and you can't seem to catch a break, hopefully, this will give you some light of hope!
One of the things I love about my work is that I can do it from anywhere. But unfortunately, I’ve come to learn over the past few months that it doesn’t mean I can work everywhere, all the time. In August I was in Portugal with my friends, but I also planned for it to be a working vacation. The epiphany I got out of that trip was that I wasn’t able to give my friends 100% and I wasn’t able to give work 100%
Turning Fears & Setbacks into Goals | 7 Lessons I'm Taking into 2020 With Me
“The only time you should look back is to see how far you've come.”
I’m already excited to start tackling my list of goals for 2020, some are small and some are pretty ambitious. But most of them stem from experiences and lessons learned from this past year. So, in honor of this year coming to a close, I want to share 7 lessons I learned in 2019 that I’ll be taking with me into 2020!
My son, Alec, is 20 and halfway through college. Now that he’s an adult, I think more and more about the effect my wandering spirit has had on his childhood. And the one thing that I tend to do an excessive amount of when I travel is...think. There’s a lot of downtime on the plane, and sometimes my brain can’t help but to travel through time. This past trip was so crazy, and overlapped with my move from Texas to California.
2018 was quite a year for me! I had visions for starting Wander Wear late 2017 and 2018, I was busy at work trying to build an apparel brand on e-commerce. Both were new to me! I've been a small business owner since 2013, so the basics of running a business aren't entirely new, and I have a Bachelor's degree in Business. However, no matter how long you've been at it, there will always be lessons to be learned. Here are a few that hit home my first year running Wander Wear.
Many of you don't know this about me, but I've only been part of the entrepreneur world for about 5 years. Prior to "jumping", I had a high stress career that paid very well but eventually made me miserable. I was unhappy but needed a push to move me forward. It took me many years to leave the safety net of a six figure job, and my reinvention has left me with lots of bumps and bruises along the way.
Impostor Syndrome. Did you know that about 70% of us experience this within our career?
I was out to dinner with some friends and got to talking about our respective businesses. Sherri is a photographer, and a very talented one too! We talked about the frustrations, stressors - and gratification - of owning our own businesses. Sherri is a self-taught photographer and I’m self-taught on all the applications and tools I use to run my businesses. The consequence for both of us is that we feel a bit of a fraud, like we’re faking it to make it! And this, my friends, is Impostor syndrome.
1 girl, 2 homes, 3 businesses. How she's trying to do it all for love
She did it all for love. Did you think I meant love for a boy?? Love is a powerful motivator and at this point in my life, I’ve discovered many versions of it. Love is what wakes us up each morning. It’s what keeps us moving forward when the doubt and the uncertainty start to sink in and we question ourselves. Why am I doing this? What is it for? Well...it’s for the love.